Grief

On Monday, August 10, we found out Phillip is probably losing his new kidney. Just typing that sentence fills me with a grief and anxiety I can’t even begin to describe. It’s been a very long past six months. It’s had the highest of highs and the lowest of lows, and all the freaking in-betweens. It’s been…kind of crazy. Exhausting. Exhilarating. A roller coaster ride. For the past few weeks we’ve had a bad feeling. Part of that was because his creatinine was higher than it should have been, but he was also getting nauseated and feeling fatigued much more …

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One Year Ago Today

Cross-posted from aubreygross.com One year ago today, our lives were changed forever. My husband called me from work and asked me to pick him up early because he’d been throwing up. Again. Puking was becoming far too “normal” to us at this point, since it had been going on steadily for seven months at least. So I picked him up, and on the way home I told him we were either going to an urgent care clinic or the hospital–his call. We came home and let the dogs out before re-crating them, not knowing how long this would take. Ultimately, …

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I haven’t had him long enough

My husband almost died a couple of weeks ago. Okay, so it wouldn’t have happened two weeks ago. It probably wouldn’t have happened this coming week. But it would have happened eventually, and much sooner than either of us would have liked (as in, according to the nephrologist, probably within a few months). I’ve mentioned before here that Phillip’s been sick for a while–since Thanksgiving of 2013, to be exact. Or, rather, that’s when he got REALLY sick. Looking back, we can actually begin to see when symptoms started to pop up, they were just erratic and had no rhyme …

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