Grief

On Monday, August 10, we found out Phillip is probably losing his new kidney. Just typing that sentence fills me with a grief and anxiety I can’t even begin to describe. It’s been a very long past six months. It’s had the highest of highs and the lowest of lows, and all the freaking in-betweens. It’s been…kind of crazy. Exhausting. Exhilarating. A roller coaster ride. For the past few weeks we’ve had a bad feeling. Part of that was because his creatinine was higher than it should have been, but he was also getting nauseated and feeling fatigued much more …

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Beyond the Kidney Transplant

I want to take a moment to talk about the things that can happen beyond dialysis and a kidney transplant. For a lot of people (I would say most), kidney transplants go pretty smoothly. They get their new kidney and suddenly they just feel better. They have all this energy, there are no longer any dietary restrictions, they can drink as much water as they like (when you’re on dialysis you’re limited on how much water you can drink because your body isn’t getting rid of the excess fluid like it normally would, and this is bad for the heart). …

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One Year Ago Today

Cross-posted from aubreygross.com One year ago today, our lives were changed forever. My husband called me from work and asked me to pick him up early because he’d been throwing up. Again. Puking was becoming far too “normal” to us at this point, since it had been going on steadily for seven months at least. So I picked him up, and on the way home I told him we were either going to an urgent care clinic or the hospital–his call. We came home and let the dogs out before re-crating them, not knowing how long this would take. Ultimately, …

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Rejection

Crossposted from aubreygross.com. Rejection. It’s a word none of us really like. I mean, come on. Rejection sucks. As a teen and young adult it usually means someone you’re interested in has said “thanks, but no thanks” or successfully friend-zoned you. Professionally it can mean all kinds of things–you didn’t get that job you thought you had in the bag, you were fired, or someone didn’t like your work. As an author rejection means an agent or editor decided–for a variety of reasons–they don’t want your story. In the world of organ transplants, rejection means the recipient’s body has suddenly …

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On Being the Wife of a Transplant Recipient

So, the kidney transplant happened. On January 20, 2015, my husband received a kidney from his cousin, Alicia. Eight days later we celebrated our third wedding anniversary. It was the best one yet. Needless to say, the beginning of 2015 has been quite busy (but in a good way). And now, almost two weeks later, we’re still adjusting, although it’s been a fairly easy adjustment all things considered, and it’s much better than the alternative (dialysis or, y’know, death). Mostly I feel relieved and grateful. I mean, right now the kidney’s working great and it looks like I’m going to …

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